A lot of people quote this verse and say we were once objects of God’s wrath.
among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.
Let’s read this in its context.
What we don’t realize is that Paul was commenting on the Gentiles from the perspective of a Jew, “the chosen people”.
One in Christ
Therefore remember that at one time you Gentiles in the flesh, called “the uncircumcision” by what is called the circumcision, which is made in the flesh by hands—
So you see he was commenting about how “paganistic” the Gentiles were from the perspective from a Jew who called every person who was not a Jew “dogs”.
In other words, it’s a Jewish thing to call anything not Jewish “unclean”.
He was not making a theological statement. He was making a cultural statement.
He was making a statement from his background and culture.
Then he continued by saying this.
But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.
This shows us the heart of God. There was no wrath against us at all. In fact God’s attitude towards us has always been loving.
Please read your Bible with culture and it’s Jewishness. Otherwise we paint God as a schizophrenic monster.